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Apr. 12th, 2011 01:46 pm*sigh*
I have little illusion of the fact that there are times when my approach to people and/or situations can be abrasive and perhaps inappropriately jarring. My only defense, if I were to call it that, would be that I feel strongly that there are times when a sugar coating is not going to adequately express my feelings towards a given subject, and it is at those times I find tiptoeing around or otherwise trying to be particularly ginger about my opinion tends to take away from what I'm trying to express (I realize that conversely, this approach itself can also take away from what I'm trying to express. It's a brutal learning process...) . I also accept that there are similar times when I would do better both for my sanity and those who ultimately receive the "gift" of my opinion to just keep my expressions to myself. I'm working on that too.
All that said, when dealing with business-specific communications, I tend to scale all of that way back, and accept that the nature of business is bullshit, and in order to at least give the illusion of working it out, I need to play by a few rules.
The only time this doesn't seem to work out for me is when dealing with vendors. Particularly sales people. Some sales people understand the "we'll get back to you" situation, and I would imagine in large part, they treat it as a dead lead, and go on their merry way for fear of being strung along with no return. Other salesmen, on the other hand, seem to view this as a challenge, and will chomp down like a rabid bulldog and won't let go no matter how clear you try to make it that you aren't interested. It is those times that I struggle with balancing the business with the strong opinion and doing my best to adequately express myself without breaking that business bubble.
Some days it is hard not to be Bam-Bam.
I have little illusion of the fact that there are times when my approach to people and/or situations can be abrasive and perhaps inappropriately jarring. My only defense, if I were to call it that, would be that I feel strongly that there are times when a sugar coating is not going to adequately express my feelings towards a given subject, and it is at those times I find tiptoeing around or otherwise trying to be particularly ginger about my opinion tends to take away from what I'm trying to express (I realize that conversely, this approach itself can also take away from what I'm trying to express. It's a brutal learning process...) . I also accept that there are similar times when I would do better both for my sanity and those who ultimately receive the "gift" of my opinion to just keep my expressions to myself. I'm working on that too.
All that said, when dealing with business-specific communications, I tend to scale all of that way back, and accept that the nature of business is bullshit, and in order to at least give the illusion of working it out, I need to play by a few rules.
The only time this doesn't seem to work out for me is when dealing with vendors. Particularly sales people. Some sales people understand the "we'll get back to you" situation, and I would imagine in large part, they treat it as a dead lead, and go on their merry way for fear of being strung along with no return. Other salesmen, on the other hand, seem to view this as a challenge, and will chomp down like a rabid bulldog and won't let go no matter how clear you try to make it that you aren't interested. It is those times that I struggle with balancing the business with the strong opinion and doing my best to adequately express myself without breaking that business bubble.
Some days it is hard not to be Bam-Bam.
