Kicking the facebook habit

so I think it is time to get my proverbial ducks in a row. Some of that is researching alternatives to easy tools that Facebook offers. Others involve making sure that people I care about know how to find and reach me. And ultimately, I think it will come down to finding a way to completely remove my feed in such a way that if I'm going to go see what someone is up to, it will have to be a very deliberate action. No more mindlessly scrolling and hitting "Like".

Another piece of that is reaching out to people I care about directly to get other means to contact them and talk with them. It's all well and good that we have this little place where we all go to paste our stuffs, but real human interactions seem better.

I like the "invite everybody on my friend's list to coffee" idea, though I'm not entirely sure how realistic it is. But I'm game to do aspects of that. It also reminds me that I have to get my own personal ducks in a row so I have something to talk about during these dates. :-) Fortunately I tend to live my life in a way that promotes interesting things either directly or tangentially. I just have to remember to step back far enough to see it and be willing to relate it to people who don't live inside my head. :-D

But more to come. Along those lines, if you're reading this and care to be able to reach me in other ways, send me a message. I can likely hook you up.

Follow the yellow-brick road!

One of the notions that comes to those of us who are a bit of control freaks is this need to mitigate risk. I sometimes find that I set myself up to deeply desire my plans to go as I wish, and a lot of times, those plans involve other people in some way. And while planning is good, I think me and those like me spend too much time trying to figure out how to deal with what might go wrong or what won't go to plan.

Life is a funny thing. It does what it does. While we can exert a lot of control over things, the more we do, the more we worry about what we can't control. And that worry is brutal.

While I often need reminders of this, I believe that life is best lived when we only nudge it here and there. We can choose our path, and we can walk on it, and we may get where we want to go, but the trip may not be what we expected. There is less stress and worry when we accept that we know we'll achieve our goals. It makes it much easier to tolerate detours, and really, detours are the spice of life. Facing them with grace and poise will feed us. Treating them not as distractions but as adventures will enrich us.

And then we can in turn share the love.